In Soccer the striker is out to score as many goals as possible, In baseball the batting team is out to score as many home runs as possible is this maybe the same idea that male first year students have when it comes to sexual encounters with fellow female/male students? This is a question that I have been asking myself for a very long time, I have asked a few people what they think about it so far I’ve had a mixed response. I believe that this is the truth, most of the first year male students do go out to have as much sex as possible within their first year of studying at any particular university not just Rhodes.
I live in De beers residence and in this residence is a very diverse crowd we have, boys who work very hard, we have those that seem like they don’t work at all, we have those who go out every weekend and we have those who have never been out on a night in the clubs ever in Grahams town, and having spoken to them all I have found out that most of them either came to Rhodes wanting to have sex with as many girls in the first week or the first month and first year or wanting to have a girlfriend/”sex buddy” that they have sex with regularly, but can we really blame them with the kind of sexual pressure that exists in a university environment well regularly depending on their sexual appetite. The amount of planning that goes into this kind a mission is very intense according to one student that I spoke to, he had spoken to some of his friends that were also coming to study here and they had a plan to have 10 different sexual encounters by the end of the first week this being O-week, the way that it is done is sometimes not an issue, for some whoever they have sex with is not an issue, all that matters is the sex and being able to check of another girl on the “sex check board”.
In my opinion considering the fact that most of the first year male students that come here are straight out or a few years out of high school and they are usually aged between 18-21 this being the sexual peak of many young males it comes as no surprise to me that they just want to “spread their seed”. The newly found freedom that the young men receive when they come to university is also part of the reason, they can now drink alcohol, smoke etc without having to worry about being caught by their parents this adds confidence and makes it safer for them to try this kind of thing. Peer pressure also plays a role in this activity having seen that most of the young men in my residence are not virgins it is very likely that you will hear about various sexual escapades and about how much “fun” they are, and become influenced into doing something similar just for the sake of fitting in.
The way that some male first year students behave by going after the quickest “shag” is, for lack of a better term, one of the most disgusting things that I have ever seen of but it is a sad reality, and for the sake of all of us be it male or female we should try our best to stay safe and behave responsibly because I don’t think anyone wants to fall victim to a bunch or horny young men who will take advantage of you and then just leave.
